By Kathy Coffey
Do not worry about your life, what you will eat [or drink],
or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food and the body more
than clothing?
(Matthew 6:25).
Ouch. When Jesus tells us not to worry about food or clothes, he cuts
close to home. In their book Sleeping With Bread, Dennis, Matthew and Sheila
Linn describe the psychic importance of food.
Children traumatized by the bombings in Holland after World War II escaped
to safe refuges, but had trouble sleeping at night. The staff who cared for them finally
discovered a solution: The children were each given a small roll or loaf of bread on
going to bed. Holding it in their hands, the children could sleep. The subconscious
message was clear: I ate yesterday; I ate today; I will eat tomorrow. I am secure now,
and I can sleep.
In the Judeo-Christian tradition, the meal has profound significance.
When he wants us to remember him, Jesus asks us to eat bread and drink wine. He refers
to himself as the nurturing bread of life. Similarly, the Bible exalts the symbolic
significance of clothing. Isaiah describes God clothing us with the garments of salvation
(61:10). To restore his sons dignity and celebrate his return, the prodigal father
calls for his best robe, a ring and sandals.
Beyond the usual ambivalence of Scripture, what more could this apparent
contradiction mean? Perhaps Jesus deliberately chooses two things that are importantnot
only physically but also spiritually. We live in a toss-away era: diapers, razors and
pens are disposable. The shelf life of most books is shorter than a carton of yogurt.
Cars and appliances are built with
planned obsolescence.
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Getting to the Heart of It
We grow careless about many things, but at some level we still cherish
food and clothing. Some of us spend considerable time planning and preparing nourishing
meals. Likewise, a key question for many women before a big event is what to
wear? So its tempting to ask Jesus: Why tinker with those? Couldnt
you just tell us to worry less about obvious consumerism? If hed told us
not to worry about our Porsche, this teaching would be easier to swallow.
Exactly. Jesus uses things vital to life to prove that life can be more,
more than even these. We all remember times of letting gowhen the dinner burned,
but we laughed and improvised another menu and had a good time anyway. There is more
to our enjoyment of a wedding or reunion than what we wear. And at our most vulnerable
times, for birth or making love, we wear nothing at all.
Pyramid Model
Perhaps Jesus is showing us a certain hierarchy. At the top of the pyramid
is our relationship with God, enjoyment of the surprises God sends when we quit trying
to control or defend our lives. Next comes our relationship with others. When we think
of those who are dear to us, we remember their kindness, their humor or the light in
their eyesbut rarely their wardrobes. Then we might turn our gaze on Gods
creation. Appreciating the sanctuary that surrounds us, we become caught up in the
pale green film of spring leaves, the shadings of the sea, the majesty of an oak or
the roar of a waterfall. Indeed, all these things rank higher on the pyramid than food
or clothes.
Perhaps Jesus is speaking from the kind of exasperation we feel when
a friend or relative seems stuck in detail. Cmon! we want to say.
Theres more to life than your work deadline, your diet, your craft fair
or your science project. Focus on the bigger question: Am I loving God and the people
placed in my path?
For some, worry about food or clothing may not be the issue. But we all
know that something blocks our path to God. Are we reluctant to let go of our cherished
ideas and be broadened by anothers? Do we cling to our Palm Pilots, never allowing
an interruption in the strict schedule? Do we spend more time in retail therapy than
in prayer? Do we fear change or growth, dread risk or speaking out?
If we answer Yes to any of these, then Jesus invites us to
fuller life. Cmon! he says. Let me show you what Ive
got in mindso much grander and better than your narrow niche, your comfy routine.
Follow me to larger life.
Kathy Coffey, the mother of four, is an editor at Living the Good
News in Denver, Colorado. She has won numerous writing awards. Her newest book is Women
of Mercy (Orbis, 2005).
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Meal Time Is Sacred Time
By Judith Dunlap
A friend recently told me a joke that I had heard at least 10 years ago. How
does a suburban mom from Centerville call her kids for dinner?Answer: Everybody
in the car!
Probably the reason the joke has been around so long is because its truth resonates
in so many of our families. I heard a statistic a few years ago that the average family
sits down together with everyone present for only two meals a week.
The statistic is not surprising when you consider what busy and complicated
lives we live. Extended work hours, long commutes and a barrage of activities for children
make time a precious commodity. And yet, spending time together is one of the six qualities
of a strong family, according to a national survey conducted by the University of Nebraska,
Lincoln.
Another quality is commitment. One way of showing your commitment to
family is by taking the time to have at least one special family meal a week. Remember,
it is not the food that makes it special (pizza is fine); it is having everyone sitting
around the table together.
Try to make a ritual out of such occasions. Light a candle in the center
and hold hands for a blessing. Make sure the television is turned off, and make it
a rule that no one leaves the table until everyone is finished. Allow only positive,
affirming conversation: no preaching, no scolding. A good conversation-starter might
be to ask everyone to share what was the best thing that happened to him or her that
day (or week).
Time spent around the dinner table is special. Think about all the time
Jesus spent in table fellowship with his disciples. He is no less present at your table.
Family mealtime is sacred, as much a blessing as the prayer it began with.
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What was the best time you ever
had together as a family? What made it special?
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Madagascar
By Frank Frost
In New Yorks Central Park Zoo, four good animal friends are having the time
of their lives. Alex the lion (voiced by Ben Stiller) gets all the attention he craves
as King of the Beasts, along with all the juicy steak he can eat and perks like getting
his mane washed and blow-dried. Hypochondriac giraffe Melman (voiced by David Schwimmer)
gets constant medical attention, and hippopotamus Gloria (voiced by Jada Pinkett Smith)
is solidly happy.
So why, they wonder, is excitable and restless Marty the Zebra (voiced by Chris Rock)
so eager to escape the zoo and return to the wild? Besides having a midlife crisis,
that is.
Madagascar is an exuberant and funny animated movie in the new tradition that
turns a kids flick into a family film by layering the story with adult cultural
references, especially to past movies. The animation is sophisticated in texture and
motion and creates delightfully anthropomorphic animals.
When a determined Marty does break out and head for the wild, his three friends jump
the fence to bring him back. But theres no going back. The recaptured animals
end up in crates aboard a ship headed for Africa. Meanwhile, a hilarious group of military-like
penguins also escape the zoo and commandeer the ship. In the process the crates go
overboard and the four friends wash ashore on the island of Madagascar.
Shipwrecked and deprived of the creature comforts of captivity, the castaways now
experience a true test of their friendship. Marty is for making the best of the wild.
Alex is determined to return to the zoo. Soon they draw a line in the sand and split
into two camps.
The stranded animals eventually encounter a tribe of lemurs, who debate the merits
of making friends or enemies of the newcomers. Their wacky king decides they can become
valuable allies against their predatory enemies, the foosa.
The humor turns rather dark as Alex, long meat-deprived by now, begins to revert to
the wild. He has to fight his impulse to see his friends as potential steaks. Fearful
of what the wild is doing to him and afraid he will kill his zebra friend for food,
Alex exiles himself, becoming a hermit.
When the crazy penguins run their ship aground on the island, Marty heads into the
jungle to give Alex the good news that they can now escape. The foosa close in to attack
the vulnerable zebra, and friendship triumphs as Alex springs to the rescue. But its
almost too late. The foosa are no longer intimidated by a lion who doesnt want
to kill. It takes the penguins, now a well-disciplined CIA paramilitary troop, to help
the zoo animals escape the fate of the natural food chain.
In the end, the former zoo animals set up house on the abandoned ship, where they
create their own version of civilization that enables Alex to live free of his dark
side and where friendship reigns.
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What values do you find in this film?
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By Judy Ball
St. Rose of Lima (1586-1617)
Today, St. Rose of Lima is recognized as the first canonized saint of
the Americas. But when she was a young girl, it was her beauty that distinguished her.
She came to be known not by her baptismal name (Isabel) but by the name of one of natures
loveliest flowers.
Most women of her day expected to become wives and mothers. Not Rose,
who let her parents know early in life that she did not wish to marry. Prayer and penance
mattered much more to the young girl, who took Catherine of Siena as her model. The
more her parents talked to Rose of marriage, the more she dug in her heels. Instead,
she told them, she wished to enter a convent. After 10 years they reached a compromise:
Rose would continue to live at home, where she would live a life of penance and solitude.
She became a member of the Third Order of St. Dominic, wore a religious
habit and lived in a hermitage built for her on her familys property. There Rose
led a simple, quiet life of prayer and penance. In time, the maiden who spent so much
time in prayer gained the attention of the sick and poor. They came to her for material
assistance as well as maternal concern. She especially loved her work among the Indians
and slaves and delighted in telling all she met about Jesus and his special love for
them.
Roses humble efforts to help the needy represented the beginning
of social services in Peru. The woman who became known as the Mother of the Poor said, When
we serve the poor and the sick we serve Jesus. We must not fail to help our neighbors,
because in them we serve Jesus.
When Rose died at the age of 31, her coffin was carried through the streets
of her beloved city. Her feast day is August 23.
Sister Jeanette Skinner, S.S.S.
Centuries ago, St. Rose wanted nothing more than to enter religious
life. When frustrated in that goal, she found a way to meet her needs by serving the
poor out of her home in Lima, Peru. Forty-seven years ago, Sister Jeanette Skinner
entered the Sisters of Social Service so she could fully devote herself to the poor
in Los Angeles, California.
The poor teach me to be centered and to really pay attention to
them as individuals, Sister Jeanette told Every Day Catholic. If they
need to talk they find a listening ear in the native of L.A. who has served at St.
Gerard Majella Parish for the past 19 years. Latinos make up the majority of the parish,
which also includes Caucasians, African-Americans, Asians and Middle Easterners. Many
of them struggle to make ends meet.
Although Sister Jeanette has an office on the parish property, she works
without a budget. Whatever I can scrounge up is what we have to work with, she
said cheerfully. But that only makes her work harder and more creatively to respond
to the array of needs she sees in a week. At the top of the list are people needing
emergency food assistance. With the help of volunteers, she feeds up to 3,000 people
(or 375 families) each week. Rather than receive one or more bags of prepackaged groceries,
recipients are invited to shop. They look over the stacked shelves and make their own
choices rather than having somebody else do that for them, Sister Jeanette explained.
Afterwards, many of them drop a piece of paper or two in the prayer request basket
on a nearby desk.
Not everyone who comes is Catholic, she said, but were
all children of God. Were here to serve one another.